1. Be gentle. It’s an act of trust. 2. Trust yourself. Intuition is your brain working behind your back. 3. Get help. Sometimes things are too much. 4. Create space for yourself–use environment, time and boundaries. 5. Cocoon yourself for transformation. Survival is not enough. 6. Embrace your antagonists. Struggle, anger, and disagreements lead to […]
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After my mother died at the age of 55, in 2008, I wrote a book about mourning. I read through scholarly texts and novels and poems that touched explicitly on grief. In the process, I learned how physical it is, causing changes in cortisol levels, memory, sleep, and appetite; leaving the mourner exhausted, scattered, struggling […]
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Hallelujah Anyway, Anne Lamott, pp. 96-97 I’ve lived through times when a connected group of humans in grief and shock stayed together as things unscrolled, when a person was dying too young. Or after. What could we do? We showed up. When our best friends’ teenagers disappeared. When their fathers lost their minds. Or their […]
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Cross posted here: http://www.dweidlich.com/in-memory-of-misty/ To Misty, Our dog for 11 years, until today. Now you belong to our Heavenly Father. We’ll never forget when we first met you at the animal shelter. They found you near a dumpster at a Chinese restaurant. We knew you belonged with us. We will always remember you for your […]
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Walter Wangerin – facing cancer several years ago (he’s still going) Suddenly–in the midst of a life fresh and green and full of dreams–death intrudes. Your death. The real thing. Das Ding an sich, as the Germans say: “The thing itself.” And what may in the past have been a warning, perhaps a multitude of […]
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…there is hope, Biden told the military family members in the audience. “There will come a day, I promise you and your parents, as well, when the thought of your son or daughter or your husband or wife brings a smile to your lips before it brings a tear to your eye. It will happen. […]
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Forgiveness is giving up the hope that you will ever have a better past. Let me repeat that . . “Our lives can indeed be seen as a process of becoming familiar with death, as a school in the art of dying. I do not mean this in a morbid way. On the contrary, when […]